Monday, 10 May 2010
How to handle a biting toddler, or not?
Horrors! (Our little angel?)
I immediately felt like I had to apologise. I also tried to find out what sparked the aggression. I know there is a “bully girl” with them. The babies are always crying around her. What about her? Was she not involved? Apparently the “bully girl” is much better now. (What are they saying? Is Mieka the bully now?)
I could only muster: “We have never seen this behaviour at home.” (We haven’t!)
But what do you do?
- Talk to her, telling her nicely that it is not nice to bite her friends. Not likely! She will only look at me with those innocent blue eyes...
- Biting her when she bites you? This is the advice that most people give. I am not comfortable with it at all! (The lesson: I am teaching you: violence with violence!)
- Giving her loads of attention. (Check!)
- Teaching her with positive reinforcements that it is not acceptable behaviour to hurt other people. (Check!) At the moment she still thinks it is funny to hit at us in play, not understanding the impact. This is part of the development level where she is.
- I think it is one of the most important things to learn sympathy and empathy, and it is something to be taught!
Luckily Mieka hasn’t done it again, and thumbs crossed I won’t feel like I have to explain again at the day care.
How do you handle a biting toddler?