Friday, 13 May 2011

What to do with a strict teacher?

The Toddler is going to get a strict teacher the following year. I was hoping and planning that it would only happen when she was four, but the day care has decided to move her into the strict teacher’s class when she is three.

I am planning to move her to a new day care when it happens...

I have been so happy with the day care this year. I had some issues the previous year, with the Toddler getting hurt, and being in a class with only an assistant teacher.

They started this year in a new class! Only six of them, and I could see that it made a difference in the Toddler’s life. She started to sing and scrabble more at home! (Some more “lights” came on!)

During the holidays they moved her to a new class because it was felt that the six should be more up to date with the rest of the group. The reason is to integrate better next year. The Toddler is now with a group of about 15. She is extremely happy there!

The problem is the strict teacher next year!

From the beginning I said I would not let my child go to her. She screams at the children. She gives them hidings (although it is not allowed!). She has also said some pretty disturbing things to children, such as when we drop them off: “Your mother still loves you very much!” (WTF!)

She has told a friend’s girl that she makes the worst sketches in the world!

The day care owner is aware of this lady’s shortcomings. She told me that she has sent her home on a couple of occasions when she heard her screaming at the children. But she feels that this teacher is very good with keeping to the learning guidelines. She also spends lots of her time helping some of the children to catch up.

My question is: Do I allow my child to be subjected to this lady’s inability to control her own anger, and also her seemingly lack of insight into the child’s psyche? The other questions: Does learning take place in a place of hostility? Or should my child learn to handle different types of authority figures? Is it too soon to subject her to this at the age of three?

While writing this, it seems I have made up my own mind already...

What are your thoughts about strict teachers? Do some children handle it better than others?

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Day care woes and first report card

12 comments:

  1. No ways. You'd never be able to relax at work, thinking of your daughter there. I think you've made the right decision.

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  2. So Magot has said exactly what I wanted to day. No ways!

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  3. The strict teachers names I can remember and where the ones I loved! They set the boundaries where kids feel safe. I trust the judgment of the nursery school owner.

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  4. I agree. I think you've already made up your mind.

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  5. I also hate it when people lose it and shout. What they don't realise is that the moment they loose it, they have lost a huge battle. I would also not allow my child to be shouted at. I remember when my oldest was in Grade 1 he had a shouting teacher. I was called in one day because according to her he was cheeky with her. Apparently when she shouted at him...he told her "my mommy doesn't shout at me...and nobody else is allowed to." Clever boy...not cheeky at all;-)

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  6. I wouldn't either. I think the best way that children can grow and learn is by positive affirmations and discipline, but not what it sounds like that teacher does. Any negative comments - like you draw the worst sketches- can hinder growth and then as they grow, that is what they remember, disabling that joyful spirit one negative comment at a time.
    does that make sense?

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  7. I don't mind strict teachers, but I do mind teachers out of control losing their temper and screaming at kids. A big no-no in my books!

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  8. At her age, she shouldn't have a strict teacher. What's up with that! She's still way young.

    I wasn't even willing to let my kids go to a teacher like that when they were 8 ... thankfully they went to another class!

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  9. Margot of Jou ma se blerrie blog (http://joumaseblerrieblog.blogspot.com/) had the following to say: (It was lost by Blogger's maintenance downtime)
    "No ways. You'd never be able to relax at work, thinking of your daughter there. I think you've made the right decision."

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  10. Cat (http://juggelingactoflife.blogspot.com/): So Margot has said exactly what I wanted to day. No ways!

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  11. Mena (http://www.timenaphotoblog.com/):
    "I agree. I think you've already made up your mind."

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  12. "The strict teachers names I can remember and where the ones I loved! They set the boundaries where kids feel safe. I trust the judgment of the nursery school owner. "

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