Dear Auntie
My toddler is nearly three and he is hurting me, almost on a daily basis!
He hurts me real bad. I’ve got bruises to show for it, especially on my arms.
He is a big boy and he pinches me, even in my face!
I have tried everything:
- Talking to him.
- Crying in front of him.
- Ignoring the pinching and trying to focus his attention on something else.
- Ignoring him.
- Walking away.
- Giving him a hiding.
- Threatening him with no presents from Father Christmas.
- Pinching him back.
I am not proud of all of it, but nothing seems to work!
I don’t know how to handle the situation anymore!
I try to be there for my child as much as possible. (I have been called a “helicopter” parent).
My son cannot complain about me not being there for him. He also does not allow for me to be too far away from him…
I sense that it has got something to do with insecurities…
Maybe because his father and I are divorced?
Am I a bad parent?
What have I done wrong?
Please help!
What do I do with my toddler who bullies his own mother?
One of my boys used to kick me in the shins when he was 3.
ReplyDeleteI could not understand why.
I got a very good book called "Raising Boys" as I already had a girl and thought I knew how to parent.
In my case it turned out he needed play fight (rough and tumble without actual fighting).
Once I began play fighting with him where he learnt the boundaries (no pinching, kicking, hitting) he stopped kicking me.
I would recommend the Raising boys book. Boys are a different species to bring up :)
carol